How to make it up the ladder?
I came to this country at the age of 15; I took ESL classes to learn to speak English and watched channel 13 to see, hear and learn to speak English. I got my HighSchool diploma and I got accepted at New York university. At first I wanted to be a nurse but I changed my mind and went to a community college and earned an associate degree in radiography. I took the state license and passed on the first try. I worked at several hospitals and also at an orthopedic clinic in Union, NJ. I worked full times at the hospital then went to my part time job after. I also on the schedule for calls, I carried a beeper and I got calls any times of the night sometimes. I saved my money and purchased a home with my mother so we can be comfortable. I traveled with my friends during my vacations, as a radiology technologist you have to go on vacation every 3 months and you have to have a badge on you at the hospital and at the clinic to monitor radiation. I got diagnosed with hyperthyroid at the age of 21 while I worked at my first job at Christ hospital in Jersey city, NJ. I got on medication and continue to work so I can pay the rent and other expenses associated with our home and to go on nice vacations. I did not save part of my income that was my first mistake and my mom was a widow did not teach me to save money. My mom had 7 children and our father died and she did get money from his job anymore because the business went bankrupt. Mom worked as seamstress than as a home aid in NY and NJ. She did the best with what she had and she was very strict with us. We had to get marry in order to leave the house as far as the girls, the boys they can move out and leave with their girlfriends. I was almost 30 yrs old and still single and my doctor informed me if I want to have children I need to start because I may not be able because of my illness. One of my coworker who were going through a divorce and he started to like me and I told him I want to get marry and also told him that I need to get pregnant because I can’t wait so we agree to try and I got engaged and I got pregnant. His divorced had complications so we had to wait to get marry. We started a business then we got married. He changed the names of the business so many times that was the first sign of how he was but I did not get it. He was a clever man and he had experiences at things that I did not have. We built the business for thirteen years and I got sick and asked him to give me a divorce. Yes we had money but we had no health insurance and I was sick and bleed for 1 year because I had a fibroid and I did not know how dangerous it was. After my divorce I went on government assistance and found the best doctors to help me stay alive I got an hysterectomy, radiation and iron injection. My husband was already talking to another woman at our business and he had private meetings with his cohorts about the business and I was not included in the meeting. He lied about me and he acted like I was the villain so he can get sympathy from his cohorts and it worked. They helped him to steal the business and they put the business on his new woman’s name. He even tried to take my kids but my brother in law helped me to keep my children. The first thing they did was to removed my name from the bank because I trusted him when I changed the business from a S-Corporation to an LLC . S-Corporation is 50/50 however LLC is 90/10. Yes the house, the cars were on my name and yes he tried to take them but he couldn’t. After one of his sibling found out the truth she told me “ you are a strong woman “ but blood is blood unless you are a psychopath. I lost all my assets but I kept my children and my health.
The law needs to protect people like me and yes it can happen to men also. We trusted and invested our money, times and strength in our marriage and the partners who has access to the money , the business can take them all. The law need to make it mandatory for a full time caretaker to get child support and alimony automatically without us going to court because so many ex spouses transfer assets which include businesses on other people’s name so they can cry out that they do not have money. We are asking Congress to pass a bill for mandatory child support and alimony. It is to protect children and spouses that supported their significant partner during their marriage.
