How to live the American way Wisdom I m going to tell him that I unmatch with him because I can see where he is at all times. I let my guard down, and based on my experiences, I can not afford to do that. I must learn from past experiences and the clever people in my life because they mostly get what they want. I am a mom, and I care about people too much at times. The focus needs to be me; I need to learn how to do me, which is the American way.